Have you been looking for a handbook on how to propose, an illustrated step-by-step guide on how to ask your girlfriend to marry you? Unfortunately, you won’t find it here, but there is a reason for that: a proposal is highly personal, and there’s no standard approach that works for everyone. That is why you will find guidelines on crafting a great proposal here, but the details are up to you.
Choosing a ring
What is the first thing everyone does when they hear a girl is engaged? Demand to see the ring, or course. This is why it is so important that you select a ring that your girlfriend can be proud of and will suit her style. This doesn’t mean that you just pick out the flashiest ring you can find. Instead, you need to seriously take into consideration what your girlfriend likes in her jewelry. Some women don’t like flashy rings, while others prefer a glitzy look. Some women are only interested in yellow gold engagement rings, while others might prefer platinum settings. If you can’t discern from her current jewelry what she might like, check with your girlfriend’s relatives and friends for recommendations. Of course, if your girlfriend is extremely picky and doesn’t like surprises, she may prefer to help you choose the right ring.
Where to propose
The saying, “location is everything,” doesn’t just apply to real estate. Choosing the right setting for your proposal can create a scene straight out of a fairy tale for your girlfriend. Choosing the wrong one, on the other hand, can be disastrous. For instance, a harbor cruise might sound like an ideal setting for a proposal, but if your girlfriend is prone to being seasick, you could have a maritime disaster on your hands.
The best setting is one that has special meaning to both you and your girlfriend, such as the place you met or a destination you have always wanted to visit together, even if it is somewhere quirky like an amusement park or a sporting event.
How to propose
As for the manner in which you should propose, once again take your cue from your girlfriend. If she is shy and reserved, she is not going to enjoy a flash mob proposal. On the other hand, if she is someone who loves big gestures, your girlfriend is going to be disappointed if you simply push a ring across the table and say, “Wanna get married?”
Although, you probably won’t get turned down for a bad proposal, it isn’t unheard of for a woman to start second guessing whether she is marrying the right person based on the way her boyfriend proposed. When a proposal is way off base, it could signal to a woman that the man doing the asking either knows very little about her or doesn’t care about her feelings or preferences.
It’s all about her
When crafting your proposal, always keep your girlfriend’s preferences and styles in mind. Whether you are choosing a ring, a location, or the way to propose to her, remember your proposal should show that you are the right person for her because you love, know and understand her.